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IMDB rating: 4.30 Plot: As four friends prepare for life after high school, different challenges bring about turning points in each of their lives. The dramas unfold and resolve at their local rollerskating rink, Cascade. |
Actors: Andrews Greg,Benton Brandon Bernard,Boyer Adam,Daniels Albert,Ewing Steven R.,Fleming Alvin Lee,Gipp Cameron,Hansard Bart,T.I.,Crusher Bone,Drama,
Do you support your S/O going out to clubs and bars alone?
Me and my man have been living together for 8 months and it has been a wonderful 8 months. We have went out together and had wonderful times. Well a month ago he took me to a very smokey hood spot that I didnt enjoy at all and since then he has been demanding the need for autonomy and going by himself sometimes. And I am fine with that, but he prefers to go out to the very clubs he used to pick up women at and it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
We live in ATL and there are tons of places he can hang at but he insist on hanging at clubs, by himself. Plus he feels he does not need a curfew because he is grown. His reason for hanging out? So he can drink and smoke and during an argument he said he will be dancing with other women and I need to accept that…and I broke up with him. It’s not the issue of dancing with other women, its the combination of him smoking, drinking, and a strange butt grinding against his crotch. It is not a good combination. He says he wont cheat and I trust he wont, but how does he know what he will and wont do if he is drinking?
He claims I am being controlling, I say he does not want to respect our relationship. Am I being unreasonable?
Do you have an issue with you significant other goes out and parties alone?
I’d have problems if I wanted to come and he said no. Most of the time, he goes alone because I don’t want to go. If he doesn’t want you to go, there’s probably something going on and you need to investigate. Maybe tell him to go and then follow him. See what he does. Or you can have your mutual friend go and tell you what’s going on. My husband and I have "our" days. He goes out on Fridays with his friends, and I go out on Thursdays with mine. It’s an agreement though.
living4god3884 | Feb 06, 2010
.Going out with friends, no problem. Going out to nightclubs alone, I’d probably have a problem. I have no issue with my partner wanting time to do his own thing, with us spending time apart, but I’d have a big problem with him wanting to go out and pretend he was single and on the prowl. That would be him disrespecting the relationship…when you are in a relationship with someone, you don’t pretend to be a swinging single.
Sounds to me like he’s just not ready to settle down.
BabeHart | Feb 06, 2010
if he is going out alone, he is bound to talk to someone–esp if he is drinking! idk, id be uncomfortable with that. "strange butt grinding on him"-thats wrong. if he just went out with a buddy to smoke and drink, ok thats fine. but bumpin n grinding on another chick is really unnerving. i , too, would think he was flirting and looking to hook up–esp if drinking a lot.
thats fine for a bf to go out alone, but to drink at a club? nah, he is bound to get into some kinda trouble…i dont like that at all. u were right. he should take u out to places where it is not so smoky. thats wrong…
idk if u wanna break up over that if it has been a great eight months, but i would explain it’s suspicious that he does that
chloe | Feb 06, 2010
When the cat’s away the mice will play. Get out of this relationship. It sounds like he wants to live the single life, but still have security at home. That is not fair to you. If he respected and loved you then he would take you with him out, or stay home and spend time with you. No man in a committed relationship goes out to bars and dances with other woman while getting drunk. Leave him.
Shyler | Feb 06, 2010
